Are you significantly taller than the average woman (in Europe, it is 1.66 m)? Have you often wished you were shorter? More inconspicuous? Do you tend to bend your knees in group photos so as not to stand out so much? Do you dislike wearing heels?
Then start to discover your strengths and your height: Don't literally make yourself small, but be proud of yourself, be what you are: simply great.
Charisma is important
A tall woman is simply towering, but that also brings with it many advantages. Of course, you get tired of hearing comments like "beanpole", "long-skinny", "beanpole", "lighthouse", "giraffe" and the like. Hurtful words with external impact.
Unfortunately, the attempt to not stand out so much, to make yourself smaller, often has the opposite effect. A positive charisma, on the other hand, also creates a positive impression on the outside. A tall woman who radiates and walks through life with her head held high is perceived differently. This often takes away the space for stupid comments.
And if there are still those really stubborn ones who just always have to say something stupid, it helps to counter sweetly: “It’s all a question of perspective, maybe you’re just too small.”
From small to big
The foundation for our appearance and our height is laid in our genes while we are still in the womb. We come into the world, we are still cute and small as babies and we start to grow. Some more, some less. We grow little by little and don't suddenly become a stately 1.90 m tall. Our bodies basically give us time to get used to the changes. And that's what we should do.
No one is perfect, everyone will probably discover something about themselves that they don't like. But aren't we often too self-critical? Do we perhaps see ourselves with completely different, stricter eyes than others actually do?
Communication is important
Anyone who is not at peace with themselves and feels uncomfortable will quickly think that someone else's laughter is perhaps a laugh at them. We communicate in a variety of ways every day, but we often do not perceive the person we are communicating with correctly or even incorrectly. Because we see and perceive what we ourselves actually expect.
If I, as a tall woman, feel uncomfortable and unattractive, I assume that the person I'm talking to thinks or must think exactly the same. But this is often not the case (of course there are exceptions). If I feel comfortable and radiate from within, I probably won't think that the person I'm talking to thinks badly of me.
We should not focus on the supposed disadvantages that being a tall woman has, but rather live consciously with our height, see it as a gift and use the advantages that come with it and keep them in mind.
Why not make it bigger?
Not every man likes tall women, and may even be afraid of them. But there are also men who love tall women. Because of their long legs or because eating out is more fun (tall women can simply eat more than just a small appetizer). Or because they simply think they are a really great looking woman and are proud of them.
By the way: Where does it say that a man always has to be taller than a woman? Is it perhaps just the classic social image that is "forced" on us and that we live by? Why shouldn't we be allowed to wear a sexy shoe with a heel? Because then we'll be too tall for our fellow human beings?
Perfect is boring
The world of modeling already tells us how a woman should look best. In the 60s it was Twiggy, today we even see curvy models on the catwalks of the world. Every woman has her own charms and should not hide them, but embody them and accept herself.
And being too perfect can quickly become boring. It's the rough edges that make us what we are: unique.
Stand in front of your mirror, look at what you love most about yourself and go with the thought: You are good just the way you are.
Pamela from LangeHosen.de
