A new pair of pants is like a new relationship
Have you ever thought about that? I don't find the comparison at all far-fetched. When I buy a new pair of jeans, I'm looking for that one special pair that simply fits well, lasts a long time, retains its shape and color, and hugs my body. It's similar to finding true love, the one that's right for you. The search for that one special person who simply fits me well, with whom the relationship lasts a long time, whose shape and dazzling colors will remain, and whose cuddling always feels good.
Very comparable, I think. Finding true love is often not that easy, but once you have it by your side, you don't want to be without it. Sharing everything together, going through life together, laughing and sometimes arguing, understanding each other completely, and trusting each other.
Relationship is like a roller coaster ride
These are all important factors that make for a good relationship, for true love. Of course, it's not always a "high life"; a wild rollercoaster ride with many ups and downs is simply part of it. But through every argument, you get to know the person around you anew.
And again, the comparison to my new pants applies here. When I wear them, they stay with me through thick and thin, they're always there, and simply a feeling of comfort on my skin. There are days when I feel stunningly good wearing them, and then there are days when I miss that sex appeal. But that's more about me than my jeans.
Rose red and piglet pink
Over time, the color of the pants fades, the fabric weakens, and tears and wear appear—depending on the strength of the material. And here, too, my parallel theory about relationships is reinforced. The longer the relationship, the more everyday life develops. The initial rose-red of love turns into a piggy pink, everyday habits develop, and small cracks creep in. But that doesn't necessarily mean the end of a relationship.
Living the Pareto Principle
Consciously arrange a date again, make time for each other, do things you've always wanted to do together. But also give the other person their space - because in my opinion, a relationship is only good if you live by the so-called Pareto principle: 80 / 20. - 80 percent relationship and 20 percent living your own space. Meeting up with your own friends, playing football, just having a relaxed chat, or even going away for a weekend with the football club - that's the space I need for myself, the space I live and give in my relationship. I'm looking forward to the World Cup, the technical discussions among men. In such important moments, I just want to live football and not explain what offside means.
If you constantly constrain your partner, you can't expect any freedom yourself. Breaking out of your comfort zone also means creating exciting atmospheres.
If I wear the same jeans with the same shirt every day, it quickly gets boring.
Men's expert discussions and women's issues
Besides, men simply talk differently among men. Even if there aren't any big speeches, the conversations simply have a different quality. Not better, but simply different. Women among women certainly have completely different topics that we should (and want to) stay out of.
One thing is certain: every relationship requires work. Both emotionally and in everyday interaction. Only then can it remain exciting and sustained. Especially the interaction
